"He was a great father."
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One of the most poignant sessions I have experienced was with a dedicated mom who was also a grandmom, the matriarch of her family helping to support her grandchildren. We talked about life issues, finances, planning for education, health, and toxic relatives. The interesting thing about this session was the impact that was delivered late in the session from which lifelong reverberations emerged. As we worked through issues with help from the Records, we were approaching the closing of our time together. When I asked her if there was anything else we needed to explore, I was instructed by Spirit to return to her childhood. Following this, I inquired about the most traumatic event in her childhood and at what age it occurred. She stated an age but no details about the event. I proceeded to clear at that age but could feel that she was holding onto something, so I asked her about it. She asked if I would like to know what happened and I replied that she could reveal what she was comfortable with. She then told me that her father had committed suicide when she was eleven years old.
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This created a paradigm shift in my approach to our session as I could bring in new awareness. We worked through feelings, and we released conflicting emotion. The beauty of this was that she opened up about what she had been holding inside and wondering since childhood. She talked about her father in a loving fashion and spoke about the confusing situations around his passing. At one point in her sharing, she paused, and in this pause of silence she said to me – ‘He was a great father…..”. My heart broke for her because she had wondered for years why this happened and if he loved her. As a child, she had heard whispers about him and knew that two people had died in an accident, a mom, and her baby. He was involved in the accident. As we cleared around this, and the guilt by association was lifting, her father came through. I received him and the two of them were able to have that long awaited, all important conversation.
Apparently, her father struggled with depression and tried to assuage his feelings with alcohol at times. Despite his problems, her memories of him were of a loving dad who spent time with her and often expressed his affection. He came through with strong emotion and as it happens, I felt his emotions and was able to convey his tremendous love to her. The Masters would not release details about the accident because the real reason for his suicide was his feelings of inadequacy around his family. Although the accident was unavoidable, he knew he would be facing the pressures of others’ assumptions. His major focus was for family, and he could not face knowing how his family would suffer because of him. He thought his decision would benefit the family in the long run.
As we worked with her child, I saw a very confused little girl who had just lost her best friend and loving father. Her child was also aware of the adults’ whispers around this. Apparently, no one knew how to have a comforting conversation that could be completely understood by her. All she felt was alone, abandoned.
Having had the opportunity to speak about what happened, she now knew that his intentions had always focused on family, even though the rest of the world was not so sure. The conversation between the two of them was beautiful and critical for her healing. She had been carrying questions and uncertainty since that tender age of eleven. She asked if he often played with her grandson whom she had watched interact with someone at play and yes indeed, her father was often by his side. At this point in her life, she could begin to appropriately grieve the loss of her father, knowing that his feelings for her never wavered and that their relationship was intact. And she would now be able to communicate with him at will.
In every session that I have, there are lessons forthcoming for me as well as for the participant. In this poignant story, I kept going back to that scared, puzzled, and questioning little girl who had no real answers but had many, many questions. She was exposed to whispers of disregard about her father whom she dearly loved. Where was the help for this child? What do we do in our adult world to soothe such a huge impact? We must remember that children live in a different reality than we do. Their innocence evokes love and wonder with each interaction, each discovery. They have not yet accumulated bitterness or the need to judge. They only know pure love lost.
I am thankful for this window into the powers of communication with loved ones who have departed. Sometimes it makes all the difference in the world.
“He was a great father…..”.
P.S. This Akashic session was won in a raffle…. which was Spirit directed no doubt!
The Mysterious Avocado Problem
Often in a session, questions around nutrition and diet arise. Once someone asked if there was anything she should not be eating. What came to me (as a medium) was avocados. When I further inquired as to ‘why avocados’, I received the word ‘pesticides’. I went back and asked again and all I received were the words avocados and pesticides. So going forward this person adopted the habit of buying organic avocados. This information was a bit puzzling because avocados have a thick outer covering and must be peeled before eating. Although pesticide content is easily measured when it is on the outside of a piece of fruit, it is technically difficult to get accurate lower limits of detection in the food or fruit itself due to interfering substances.
Later I investigated pesticide use to treat avocado trees and this is what I found.
From the session:
S: Yeah, yeah. I mean, I don't see anything wrong with... I'm not getting the message to not eat them, I'm just getting the message that there's some sort of issue with them and then pesticides came in. So, I would go ahead and eat them. I would just be careful to shop for organically grown avocados.
{Because I did not understand the avocado /pesticide connections as this fruit has a thick outer surface and is served with the peel removed, I looked up what could possibly be the problem and found the following publication. Thrips are insects that eat the leaves of avocado trees and can essentially wipe out entire orchards. To find a commercially viable method to control the thrips, insecticides were injected into the trunks of the trees. Although testing showed variable results, it was explained using lower limits of detection in leaves and fruit. No numbers were given as to what the lower limits of detection were. Furthermore, it is technically difficult to develop acceptable lower limits of detection directly in food, especially fruit. These insecticides were found in the fruit following injection into the trunk of the trees and were present after 4 months for two of the compounds. The one candidate thought viable by the authors came in below their lower limits of detection, but no numbers were provided, and technically viable methods were not able to show with any validity the absence of this compound in the fruit. I think this was Spirit’s way of giving us a head’s up as to what is going on the avocado production industry and a nudge to watch for further developments}.
From my investigation:
Pest Manag Sci. 2012 May;68(5):811-7. Online ( doi: 10.1002/ps.2337. Epub 2012 Mar 6. )
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Evaluation of neonicotinoid, organophosphate and avermectin trunk injections for the management of avocado thrips in California avocado groves
Frank J Byrne 1, Anthony A Urena, Lindsay J Robinson, Robert I Krieger, Joe Doccola, Joseph G Morse
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Abstract
Background: Trunk injections of systemic insecticides were evaluated for the management of avocado thrips. Insecticide residues were quantified in leaves to determine when after treatment, and for how long, toxic concentrations of the insecticides were present. Residues in fruit were quantified to determine whether trunk injection of insecticides might present a greater risk than traditional application methods for contaminating fruit.
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Results: Residues of imidacloprid and dinotefuran were at least tenfold higher in leaves when trees were treated via trunk injection compared with soil application. Dinotefuran uptake was more rapid than imidacloprid, and no residues were detected within fruit. Acephate was also mobilized very rapidly and gave good control of thrips in bioassays; however, residues of acephate and its insecticidal metabolite methamidophos were detected in the fruit for up to 4 weeks after injection. Avermectin uptake was very slow, and it was ineffective against avocado thrips.
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Conclusions: Trunk injections of acephate and dinotefuran permitted rapid uptake into avocados, and they are strong candidates as control methods for avocado thrips. However, residues of organophosphates in fruit could necessitate increased preharvest intervals. Residues of neonicotinoids were below detection limits in fruit, suggesting that neonicotinoids may be the more suitable control option of the two chemical classes.